Whether you’ve compared yourself to your ex’s new partner, or that person at the gym with a bangin’ bod, we are all guilty of it… Comparing ourselves to others and subsequently getting down about our own level of success in comparison to theirs.
And can you really blame us?
Our whole lives we have been told to “Behave more like your brother, Ellyse” and “Perform more like your brother, Ellyse” … Okay so that’s probably just me.
But don’t go kidding yourself that you haven’t done it too! And I bet you felt some level of sh*tty afterwards falling somewhere on the scale between the regret after eating KFC and getting dumped over text.
Unfortunately, you are probably well aware that this doesn’t stop when it comes to your career. No, no, no; just like that kid in school who seemed to be a little smarter than you, a little better looking, there will be another.
Whilst this unhealthy practice seems to extend to all facets of life, I will be slinging some hacks to make sure your comparisons are productive and don’t just land you 3 months deep in your ex’s new girlfriend’s Instagram profile.
1 // There is more than one way to success.
This can be hard to remember when your career just isn’t going as successfully as the person next to you. You know, when you just can’t seem to land that internship, or break into employment after graduation like everyone else seems to. But that doesn’t make it any less true!
There is more than one way to get from A to B and just because your route is different doesn’t mean that you won’t end up in a similar place. At the end of the day things work for some people and not others. So make your career journey your own and don’t get caught up comparing yourself to others. After all, your unique career path offers a diverse way of thinking formed by the route you took. Embrace this individuality and the lessons learnt from failures.
2 // There is time to consider what others have achieved!
Don’t get me wrong, when it comes to you career, I do think it’s important to be aware of how well the people around you are doing. This is a perfect opportunity to learn from those who are in a position you would like to be and find out how they took the next step.
To be clear, that doesn’t mean kicking yourself for not having done the same, but gearing yourself with the information to potentially fuel your success. Keep your comparisons constructive!
3 // Spend the time focusing on you instead.
Sure. This is certainly easier said than done. I’m aware nobody compares themselves to others intentionally. You don’t schedule it in, pour yourself a glass of wine, run the bath and play some smooth jazz to just think about how sh*t you’re doing in comparison to that girl from high school. Alas, this time can be used productively.
Think about what you need to do to be where you want to be, and pat yourself on the back for doing a ripper job so far. I DO recommend the glass of wine for the latter!
This generationYOU article was written by our awesome intern Ellyse Sainty. Want to let Ellyse know how much her Career Hacks article resonated with you? You can connect with her on LinkedIn here.